Your Guide To The Best Lubes For Every Type Of Sex
If you’re looking to improve your sex life in any way, I have one word for you ––and I mean it. Lube. Let me say that again: lube, lube, lube. No matter the kind of sex you’re having, adding heaps of lube is the cheapest, quickest, easiest way to ensure you will have a 10x better time. I mean, truly Better with a capital B, and if I could capitalise 10x I would because we should stress that, too.
I’m a religious listener of the Sex with Emily podcast, the #1 Sexuality podcast on iTunes going strong after 15 years, and I’ve heard Dr. Emily Morse, the host, repeat this episode after episode: yes, it really is life changing; no, you do not need to feel weird about the amount of self-lubrication you might produce and lack thereof.
And most importantly, yes, there are different types of lubes that best suit different types of sexual activities. The truth is, the vagina and the anus are very different body parts, with different lubrication levels and different needs. You wouldn’t use your shampoo on your legs, or your toothpaste on your armpits, so why should all lubes be created equal? Let’s find out more about each type, and how to approach finding the perfect lube for your personal needs and preference.
We love Roam and we’re so proud to stock their products, because their aim is to make the world a more sex positive place and make products to support healthy sexual exploration for all.
Their condoms are made with up to 40% less plastic vs traditional condom foils, so every time you get down with a Roam condom, you’re saving plastic. Not only that, they plant a tree for every order you place and they are committed to a carbon quota across their business, starting with Scope 1 & 2 and Green-House Gas. They really care about the environment ––no greenwashing here.
They are members of the Fair Rubber Association, which ensures that latex farmers are fairly compensated for their efforts, and of the Supplier Ethical Data Exchange, one of the world's largest collaborative platforms for sharing responsible sourcing data on supply chains.
When it comes to their lubes, they are 100% natural, 100% vegan, dermatologically tested, fully recyclable, and PH balanced.
And we’re not alone in loving them! The reviews are in, and they are glowing: “have recommended their lube to all my friends,” “I loved the packaging, it is simple and elegant and isn't an eyesore on the nightstand” and “the natural rubber used for the condom feels great on the skin and has great elasticity.”
Plus, the packaging is discreet, with square edges and braille – completely accessible, and perfect to keep on your bedside table!
What lube to use for vaginal sex
When it comes to vaginal sex, lube should resemble natural wetness as much as possible. The Roam Gel Lubricant is “natural wetness in a bottle” for frictionless, pain free sex. It’s a water based formula enriched with skin-loving ingredients: agave to super dose the skin with freshness, aloe to lock in moisture, soothe and hydrate the skin, and jojoba to deeply nourish, moisturise and soft skin. The most important thing to keep in mind when choosing a vaginal lube is whether it respects the vagina’s PH balance, as some ingredients can greatly disrupt your natural flora.
The Roam Infused Gel Lubricant is enriched with cucumber and yuzu waters to refresh and hydrate: the fragrance is light with a whisper of flavour, but it’s all 100% natural fruit waters, never perfume. You can call it “skincare for down there” as it was developed specifically to maintain the correct PH balance, and to supplement the body’s natural lubrication level.
This community-tested clear intimate gel feels non-greasy and non-sticky, which we love, and of course, it is safe (and fun) to use with condoms and with toys!
What lube to use for anal sex
The anus produces very little lubrication, and needs lots of support in that department when it comes to anal play and penetration. Whatever amount you’re thinking of using, you need to double. And whatever concerns you have about inflammation, tears, or discomfort, you can leave them behind because we have the product for you.
While it’s true that the skin membranes in and around the anus are very fragile, the skincare formula in the Roam Silk Lubricant helps to deeply protect and repair the entire area, so you’re good to just have a good time without any uncomfortable issues.
The Silk Lubricant was developed specifically for better anal sex, and it delivers on the promise. It has a silky and thick texture, and it’s enriched with several skin-loving ingredients: tonka, to reduce tightness and supplement comfort; olive, to reduce inflammation and speed up skin repair; and aloe, to lock in moisture, soothe and hydrate the skin. It has a non-greasy and non-sticky feel, truly silky and luxurious.
And of course, the Silk Lubricant is safe (and fun) to use with condoms, and with toys!
What lube to use for sensory exploration
If you’re looking to have some solo fun, or give your partnered foreplay a boost, the Roam Massage Oil is your new best friend. Enriched with passion seed, argan and vitamin E, this multi-sensory oil helps to heighten intimacy and arousal, which, well ––sign me up. It smells somewhat bittersweet as it’s made to resemble the natural scent of pleasure, and it has the texture and feel of a luxurious facial oil. It’s also perfect for a long and lavish massage, whether that’s you enjoying some Sunday morning relaxing self care (yes, masturbation absolutely counts as self care) or giving a partner the massage of their life. Truly indulgent, for maximum fun.
The bottom line
With the exception of the massage oil, Roam lubes are all water based. This is important because oils are not safe to use with condoms, and silicone-based lubes can cause them to tear, too. They don’t use any artificial flavours, which can cause overgrowth of bacteria, leading to yeast infections or UTIs ––natural scents or tastes are great, but sugar is a no-go.
And if you’re unsure about which one is right for you, you can take Roam’s quick quiz and find the perfect product to rock your bedsheets! Or shower. Or couch. Or ––listen, the point is, we don’t judge.
You should be rocking whatever spot you choose, and the right lube will help you do just that.