Often, love bombers will attempt to use over the top flattery to get what they want and get their target to fall for them faster. The problem, of course, is not a simple compliment, but the pattern of stripping the other person of their objectivity –and the fact that they might be trying to get you so used to excessive praise so that they can take it away at the first occasion and leave you disoriented and needing more. That’s when things usually turn dark, and the love bomber switches from showering the target with love to withdrawing and emotionally abusing them. 

If you try to end things with someone and they try to stop you by saying phrases like “no one will ever love you as much as I love you” or “after all I’ve done for you…” they might be a love bomber whose grift has gone wrong. 
 

Often, love bombing can take the form of a barrage of texts, calls, social media comments, check-ins and the like. You might be thinking this is a nice show of love, but does your new partner get upset if you don’t pick up their calls? Or if you make plans with your friends, and not them? Intense levels of communication are normal during the early stages of a relationship, but it’s important to remember that you are your own person and that no partner should ever try to control the other. 
 

Another thing to remember is that two people can be very compatible, love each other very much, and not like the exact same things all the time! It’s great to have shared interests and hobbies, but have you ever been with someone clearly trying to mould themselves into your perfect match? It’s creepy! They might use phrases like “it’s unbelievable, we have so much in common” or “no way, we’re basically made for each other” and it’s usually pretty transparent.