If you’ve spent years being told to tone it down, stepping into your full expression can feel...awkward. Here’s how to own it:
1. Rewrite the Narrative
Flip the script. Instead of seeing “too much” as a criticism, view it as a compliment. Being “too passionate” means you care. Being “too sensitive” means you’re empathetic. Your “too” is someone else’s “enough.”
2. Find Your People
Not everyone will understand or appreciate your full expression—and that’s okay. Surround yourself with people who celebrate your “toos,” not tolerate them.
3. Practice Self-Compassion
When you’ve been told to dim your light for so long, stepping into your full self can feel scary. Be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that you deserve to take up space.
4. Set Boundaries
Being fully expressed doesn’t mean ignoring others’ needs or steamrolling boundaries. It’s about balancing your authenticity with respect for others. Communicate your needs and protect your energy.
5. Celebrate Your Wins
Every time you show up authentically, celebrate it. Did you speak up in a meeting? Set a boundary with a friend? Wear that bold outfit you love? Give yourself a round of applause (or a cheeky glass of wine).