3. Take Time To Think About Your Values and Goals

A massive part of increasing your self-awareness is being able to understand what you actually want from life. 

Obviously, this is a huge task and not everyone knows what they want in the next year, five years, or ten years. However, I’m not talking about a future plan, I’m talking about what you want from life right now - what are your values and goals for your life currently? 

Take time to think about what you want and then set boundaries (link to boundary article) according to your values. Doing this allows you to become more self-aware and truly create the life that you want.

4. Identify Your Personality Type and Attachment Styles

Although you can move through different personality types and attachment styles within your life as you grow and change, it can be useful to do some research into these things to help you understand how you naturally function, what you can do to support your specific personality and attachment style, and how you can grow if you aren’t currently happy with the patterns or emotions showing up in your life due to these things. The more knowledge you have, the more conscious and aware you can become about yourself, your actions, and your emotions.

5. Ask Feedback From Those Around You

Whether it’s an ex-partner that you reach out to in order to understand how you can do better in future romantic relationships or a colleague you ask to help you get to grips with where you may be falling short, asking for feedback from those around you about yourself can help you become more self-aware. Just make sure you’re asking people who are not just honest, but also genuinely want the best for you and are kind, otherwise, you might receive negative critiques instead of constructive criticism. 

6. Know That You Have The Power To Reprogramme Your Thoughts

If you practice all of the tips above and realise that there are some things you’d like to change about yourself, your patterns, or your life in general, you can take action: you have the power to reprogramme your thoughts and change your life in the way that you want. Although it takes time and commitment to work on yourself and reprogramme your thoughts, you can do it: having self-awareness can also mean actively making changes to the things that don’t align with what you actually want, deep down.